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ThefairytaleCinderellaisourforite.Weallreaditwhenweareyoung.Itentertainsusinsomanyways.Thereisabeautifulheroine,leadingahardlifewithherstepmotherandstepsisters.TheyallcallherCinderella.ThenwiththemagicalhelpfromherGodmother,Cinderellagoestotheball.SheissobeautifulthatthePrinceCharmingfallsinlovewithher.Theygetmarriedandlivehappilyeverafter.
ThethreestoriesarewrittenbyCharlesPerrault,JakobandWilhelmGrimmandGiambattistaBasile.AndtheirheroinesarecalledCinderella,AshputtleandZezolla.Inthefollowingparagraphs,Iwillshowyouthedifferencesandsimilaritiesamongthem.Theyareallbeautiful,butdotheyhemeritsordefectsWhyaretheysuccesulWhatdotheydototheirstepsisterswhentheygetmarriedtoPrincesThesequestionsexistarerelevanttoourdailyliveswhenwedealwithallkindsofrelationships.Readingthispaper,youwillknowwhatyoushoulddonomatterwhatsituationyoufindyourselfin.
1.Whenyouareinasocialrelationship等
(1)Whototellyourtroublesto.Whenyouareintrouble,whowillyouchoosetotellInGrimms’version,Ashputtle,whentreatedunfairly,doesnothingbutcryonhermother’sgre.Sheonlyexpressesherfeelingstoherdeadmother.WhileZezolla,inBasile’sversion,unwiselyexpressesherfeelingstohergoverness.Inthestory,whenherfatherremarries,hebringshomeawickedwomantobeherstepmother.Zezollathenplainstohergoverness,expressingthewishthat“youcouldbemylittlemother”.Whenhergovernesshearsthat,shegivesZezollainstructions,killingherstep-motherandworkingonherfathertomarrythegoverness.Zezollashowsbadjudgmentinfollowinghergovernessonlytofindthatherlifeistotallychangedfromgoodtobadafterhergovernessbeeshernewstep-mother.Nooneknowsthewomanhassixdaughtersofherown.ShemanagestoletZezolla’ather,herhusband,ignorehisowndaughter.(2).Beingassertive.Weallneedfortfromourclosefriendsbutwealsoneedtotakeappropriateactiontosolveproblems.Weareindependentfromeachother.InGrimms’version,whenAshputtlecanhewhatevershewisheorfromthelittlebirdonthehazeltreeonhermother’sgre,shestillgoestoherstepmothertoweepandbegtogototheball.Shebelievesinherstepmotherratherthanherownabilitytotakeconcreteaction.UnlikeAshputtle,Cinderella,inPerrault’sversion,showsthinkingabilitywhen“hergodmotheriswonderinghowshewouldmakeacoachman”.Sheofferstheadvicethat“Iwillgoandseewhetherthereisaratintherat-trap,wecouldmakeacoachmanofhim”.Sheplaysanactiverole,lendingahandtohelpthesituationmoveon,notsittingbackandwatching.Shouldn’twebeasassertiveashertoactforourselves(3).Beinghelpfulbutnotaggressive.It’sgoodtobehelpful,butnotinanaggressiveway.Zezollashowsusabadexampleofaggressiveness.Firstly,sheinsistsongettinghergovernessopinionofhowtomakehertakeplaceofherstep-mother.Thensheisdeterminedtocarryouthergoverness’plan“ineveryparticular”,andgoestoextremesbykillingherstepmother.Finally,sheinterferesinherfather’saffairstopersuadehimtomarrythegovernesswhenhehasnothoughtofdoingso.Notonlyisn’tsheentitledtodothis,butsheisaggressiveratherthanhelpful.
Later,whenZezollafeelslifeisharderthaneverbefore,sheknowstograspatthechancewhenites,cleverlymakingherfatherkeephispromisetogotoaceofthefairies,“begthemtosendhersomegift”.Inthisway,shesucceedsingettingthemagicalhelpfromthefairies.Whenaskedbyafairywhatshewants,shegetstothepointthatshe“wouldlikesometimestoleethehousewithoutthesistersknowingit”.Thistime,shechangesthesituationfromunforabletosatiactoryinadeterminedway,notaggressive.
2.Whattodotocontributetoyoursocialrelationship
(1)Beingsensitivetoco-operate.ometimesitisagoodideatocooperatewithyourpetitors.Twoofourheroines,AshputtleandZezolla,maketheirsituationoredifficultbyfightingwithandhumiliatingtheirstepsistersunnecessarily.Thennodoubttheyareinabadrelationship.InBasile’sversion,whenthefeastdayse,Zezollagoeswhereherstepsistersgo.Threetimes“afterhingexcitedtheenvyandwonderofhersisters”,shelees.Thenhersistersreturn“tovexandmortifyher”,describing“atlengthallthefinethings”thattheyheseenatthefeast.Shemakesnoresponseatthat.Theydon’ttalkwherevertheyare.However,inPerrault’sversion,Cinderellaperformssimpleactionstoseherself.Attimes,shecooperateswithherstepsisters.Whentheyareexcitedlypreparingfortheball,she“madeusefulsuggestionsandevenofferedtodotheirhairforthem”.Theyacceptwillinglyforshehas“excellenttaste”.What’ore,attheball,whenherbeautyasaheenlybeingwinsthePrince’sheart,sheoffersherstep-sisterruitstopleasethem.Finally,whenhersistersreturnhomewithpleasure,shechatswiththemplayfullyandtricksthemintobelievingthatshewantstoseethe“Princess”whogivesthemthefruits.Shemunicatesverywellwithher“enemies”,hingagoodrelationshipwiththem,toallappearance.(2).Beingflexible.notherfabulouswaytowinyoursuccessinyourpublicrelationisbeingflexible.It’sanextremelyimportantqualityyoushouldhe.Withorwithoutthatmakesyougreatdifference,becauseweareallonourwayinourlives,whichmeanswemustadapttodifferentconditionsandcircumstancesastheyoccur.
InGrimms’version,whenAshputtlebegsherstepmothertogototheballandisrefused,shegoestoaskthehazeltree:“Shakeyourbranches,littletree.Throwgoldandsilverdownonme.”Shemovesonbyfindinganotherwaytosolveherproblem.Sheilexible.
InBasile’sversion,Zezollaappliesdifferentwaystogetridoftheservant’sdogging.Thefirsttimesheiollowed,she“threwdownahandfulofcrowns”.Thesecondtime,she“threwdownahandfulofpearlsandjewels”.Thelasttime,shemakeshercarriagegofastertooutdistanceherpursuer.Shedoessucceedallthreetimes.Shefiguresoutdifferentwaysaccordingtodifferentsituations.
InPerrault’sversion,whenCinderella’sstepsistersreturnfromtheball,shegoestoopenthedoorpretendingshehasjustwokenup.Whentheytellheraboutthebeautifulprincess,sheaskstoborrowoneoftheirdressestogototheball.Secretlysheexpectstheirrefusals.Shehandleshersistersandthesituationshrewdly.Shechatswiththem,triestopleasethemandprotectsherownprivacyatthesametime.
3.Whenyouareinapetition
(1)Makingawin-winsituation.hekeypointinmanagingapetitionistomakeawin-winsituationbetweenyouandyourrivals.WecanheagoodideaonhowtodoafterstudyingthebehiorofCinderella.
InPerrault’sversion,whenCinderella’stwostepsistersarebusypreparingfortheball,theyneedtohetheirhairdressed.“Anyoneelsewouldhedonetheirhairinknotorthem”,butCinderella“hadasweetnature,andshefinisheditperfectly.”Shesatiiesthembymakingthemmorebeautiful.
Inanunforableenvironment,sheprot
本文是一篇外语系论文范文,外语系方面有关专科毕业论文开题报告,关于《灰姑娘》中的处理人际关系的艺术相关研究生毕业论文开题报告范文。适合外语系及海事及职业技术学院方面的的大学硕士和本科毕业论文以及外语系相关开题报告范文和职称论文写作参考文献资料下载。
ectsherselfbybeinaluabletoher“enemies”.Shemakesitawin-winsituation,findingoutwhatiseasyforherbutvaluabletothem.Sheexchangessomethingshedoesn’tneedforsomethingsheneeds.Theothertwoheroinesarenotasgoodatmanagingthepetition,sotheirlivesathomearemuchharderthanCinderella’s.(2).Beingactive.uccess――isthekeyingredientinapetition.Anyonewhoisinapetitionshouldbeactivetobeawinner.WhatdothreeheroinesdowhentheyarebeingawinnerOnepassivelywaitortheresulttoe.Oneoidacingtheresultuntillaterwhenurgedbyothers.Onegoestogettheanswerofbeingawinnerilingly.Youwillfeelveryinterestedinparingtheirdifferentwaysandalsoyoucanfigureoutwhattodoinsuchsituations.
InGrimms’version,aftertheking’ssondecides:”Nogirlshallbemywifebuttheonethisgoldenshoefits”,heestoAshputtle’shouse.Thesistersareecstatic,andrushtoheatry.Ashputtleknowswhentheshoetesthappens,butshedoesn’tappearuntiltheycallhertoheatry.Sheknowsitishergoldenshoe,butshedoesn’tstophersisterswhentheycuttheirtoeandheelinordertofittheshoe.
InBasile’sversion,whentheKinggivesabanquetforallthewomeninthelandinordertoheashoe-test,Zezolladoesn’tgotherewithherfather.AttherequestoftheKing,“donotleebehindasinglewoman,whoevershemaybe”,onthenextday,Zezolla’atherbringshertheretofindherfootfitstheshoeverywell.Withoutdoubt,shebeesthequeenoftheKing.
4.Whattodowhenyouwin
Whenyoubeeawinner,whatwillyoudoHeyougotanyideaUndoubtedly,“Cinderellas”areallsuccesul.Butwhatyoushouldpayattentiontoishowtheyhandletheirrivalswhoaredefeated.
InGrimms’version,onthedayofAshputtle’swedding,thedovespluckouttheeyesofthetwostepsisters.Shegoestoextremetopunishherrivalsinsuchacruelway.Lifeiullofpetitionsandpetitorsshowupateverystageinyourlife.Canyoustopallyourrivalsinyourlife
InBasile’sversion,whenZezollabeesthequeen,thesisters,angryandheartbroken,“creptquietlyhometotheirmother”.Sheleesthemalone.Shepaysnoattentiontothem.Shepletelyignoresthem.
Ignoringyourrivalsdoesn’tmeantheydon’texist.Ifunwiselyyoudointhisway,youwillbeindangerofagreaterattackfromtheminfuture.Angergathersastimegoesonandwilleventuallybreakout.
Finally,itisquitedifferentinPerrault’sversion.WhenCinderella’sstepsisters“begforherfivenesoralltheunkindthingswhichtheyhedonetoher”,sheacceptstheirapologies,andinvitesthemtoliveinthepalace.Sheevenarrangesgoodmarriageorthem.Theyappreciateherkindness,butwedon’thetofollowherwayininterferinginother’slives.Howeverwhatwecanlearnfromherbehioristomaintainarelationshipwithrivalswhenthevictoryestoyou.
Conclusion
Itisdifficulttolearnwhatwecandowiselyinallkindsofsituations,whenweshouldpeteandwhenweshouldcooperate.Butonethingwecanbesureisthatit’snotanoptionforustobepassiveandsimplyaskforhelpfromothers.JustasJaneYoleninherarticle“America’s‘Cinderella’”pointsoutwehe“thetruemagicinsideusall――theabilitytochangeourownlives,theabilitytocontrolourowndestinies”.(176)Remember,noonecandevelopveryfarinisolation.Weshouldhandleourrelationshipwithourfriends,colleaguesandacquaintanceswellenoughtomakeourlivesbetter.Wealsoshouldlearnhowtoapproachconflictsandotherstresuldilemmasinacooperativeway.Finallyweshouldremainpetitive.Itensuresourcontinuedgrowthandsuccess.
Althoughdevelopingrelationshipskillstakestimesandeffort,wecanmakeallthedifferencebytakingonjustafewsimpletechniques.Ihopeyoucanhegreatideasonhowtomakeyourlivingmoremeaningfullyfromreadingthispaper.
唐力忻:江苏海事职业技术学院外语系.